Why I’m Done with Perfection
Have you ever played a game that you just couldn’t walk away from even though it nearly drove you to the brink of madness? Well, mine was the game of PERFECTION. The video above explains what we all have to lose by playing it. At the end of the transcript below are links to other resources for overcoming perfection.
Here’s what I said in the video:
This game used to be my one of my favorite games as a kid. It’s called Perfection. You have sixty seconds to find the places where each of these little shapes stick into this game before the tray pops and everything flies in every different direction. And I used to LOVE this game as a kid. I would play it over and over and over. Even though every time that darn tray popped it would scare the crap out of me, I kept playing it.
The funny thing is, even after I outgrew this game, I was playing my own perfection game. It was “check the box.” Every box had to be checked before I could feel like I had done anything of value. The irony is, half the boxes I was trying to check were things that didn’t really need to get done at all. And not only was I trying to check the box, I was trying to get everything done perfectly — only to come to the end of the day or the end of the week when the tray would pop and everything would fly in every different direction and I wasn’t getting anything done.
I was playing this stupid perfection game which you may have wondered, “What the heck is she doing?” when you saw me. “Doesn’t she have something more important to spend her time on? Maybe she has a little TOO much time on her hands.” YEAH. That’s what happens when you do perfection. You never do anything of any significance. You scare the crap out of yourself because you can never reach that ideal that you’ve been killing yourself for. And you are terrified of the chaos because you have no idea how to navigate through it. You have been so busy trying to get all the pieces in their little places before things break out that you never do anything that’s really important. AND you also never ENJOY anything that you are doing while you are doing it because you are so wrapped up in trying to get it perfect.
When I was playing the game of perfection, I never dreamt about the things that I could achieve. I had trouble staying in the moment. And I was always behind — always feeling like things were churning in my head. Even after work I would be thinking about all the things I needed to do the next day, until the tray would pop and I would terrify myself again and again. And you know what? I’m done with this game. I don’t even want my kids playing this game. It’s going in the trash.