Why What Used to Work May Now Be Working Against You (and what to do instead)
Imagine finding yourself in a dark room…It’s a room that was once lit, but has since dimmed.
And you have been doing everything you can to turn that light back on. You’ve even gone so far as to build a contraption that allows you to generate electricity through your own manual effort, sort of like a giant hamster wheel.
The problem is you have to run continuously to produce the smallest splinter of light. And you find yourself pushing harder and faster to get that light to grow so that more of the room is illuminated once again.
Off in the distance, there is another room that glows brightly and warmly beckons to you.
The radiance coming through the doorway of that space is pure and beautiful and you can almost feel its glow.
But despite the draw of that warmly lit room, you stay right where you are. Instead of getting off the crazy hamster wheel that requires constant exertion and toil, you just keep running faster and faster.
And you are becoming exhausted.
This metaphor came to me in a moment of reflection. I had noticed a theme that I’ve seen echoed among several of my executive coaching clients – and in my own life as well, from time to time.
You see, business and leadership is fluid, never static, which means we can’t rest on our laurels very long, because before we know it…
What used to work well no longer produces results. And that’s a problem.
What was once easy and energizing begins to feel cumbersome and draining. And rather than moving us forward, in some cases it actually thwarts our progress.
But when it’s all we know, it can be difficult to let it go.
We worked so hard to perfect those ways of being, of working, of relating. And it paid dividends in the past. We think to ourselves, “If I could just double down, and put a little more effort into it, a little more discipline, I could turn it all around,” right?
That’s what many of my clients thought. Maybe you can relate…
For some, the work they did won them a promotion.
Their intense operational focus and ability to dig in and get results merited them an increased scope and elevated role. They became responsible for leading and empowering others to do the work they once focused the majority of their effort on. They were being called to make a bigger, more strategic impact, but their fierce and intense focus on operational details was preventing them from making that leap.
For others, it was work that once excited them but was no longer stimulating.
They could do it in their sleep. Sure, they were good at it, but it was becoming a boring, tedious grind. It was harder to get out of bed in the morning. There was nothing to look forward to. And in their quiet moments, they dreamt of doing something bigger, bolder and more impactful.
Some even had ideas and projects they longed to pursue or propose. But they just couldn’t get themselves to break out of the ruts they were in, and/or doubted whether they really had what it took to do anything different.
And for many others, it was about working in a way that was simply not sustainable.
They had a tendency to take on more than most, prioritize everything equally and live in constant fear of letting people down. So they continued running a race that was increasingly difficult to keep up with, let alone win. The stress and pressure of their environment was high, but small in comparison to the anxiety they heaped upon themselves.
Regardless of which group you find yourself in, there is a better way not far off in the distance.
At some level you are probably aware that something has to give… You dream of feeling energized again, of being unencumbered and inspired and engaged in meaningful and fulfilling work. But you can’t get to that new place without being willing to leave the old one.
You can choose to stay in the dark, dreary room because it’s comfortable.
It may no longer be satisfying, or even pleasant, but it’s familiar. Do you ever shy away from the light that is beckoning you to leave that space because you are afraid of what you’ll see or whether you’ll be able to handle it?
Sure, we all do that from time to time, even though…
The light reveals new possibilities for growth, significance and satisfaction.
It not only illuminates the challenges and opportunities, but also your strengths – including some you may not have realized you have. And it ushers in new vitality, new energy and new clarity. When you summon the courage to leave your dark, dull room and follow the light, you’ll be filled with vigor and joy, and you’ll find your enthusiasm renewed, your passion reignited, even if you don’t believe that yet.
The light of new possibilities brings both freedom and flow. No more running like hell without getting anywhere. No more banging your head against a wall only to end up with throbbing pain. No more feelings of being trapped by your circumstances. Once you summon the courage to follow the light into new possibilities and ways of working, you’ll experience a momentum that propels you forward in a sustainable way.
I know this because I have experienced it firsthand myself.
And over the last twenty plus years I have helped hundreds of executives just like you experience it too. I can tell you that there is simply nothing like it. And it has to be experienced to be believed.
That light that beckons to you is a call to step into something bigger and more satisfying.
It invites you to release old, outworn ways of working that no longer serve you and step into your personal and professional best – to unleash your greatness, to make a bigger impact and a bigger contribution. And it brings with it not only new levels of performance and effectiveness, but also fulfillment that enhances your life both on and off the job.
I wrote this article for you, because my life’s work is about helping high achievers effect this transformation in their lives and their organizations. Because when you answer this vital call to realize more of your true potential, magic happens. You can quickly make a bigger impact doing meaningful work without sacrificing who you truly are. Best of all you’ll enjoy your life more. You become a shining example and a far more effective leader to others who will learn to make the same improvements in their own lives and careers.
The sad reality is, some of us stay in our dark rooms longer than others.
Making that move requires resolve and determination. And it starts with a conscious decision and a commitment to yourself. But the process can be unnerving. It requires you to let go of something you know in order to move into something you don’t. And though the rewards of making that move are profound, it isn’t always easy. Especially when you try to go it alone…
Having someone to guide and support you through the process can and almost always makes all the difference.
That’s why I created The Real Leader’s Guide to Freedom & Flow Group Intensive to help high achieving executives just like you make that vital leap with professional high level support and guidance, so you can move through it very quickly, with courage and grace.
The program is a distillation of the most impactful approaches and techniques that have helped my clients over the last twenty plus years to successfully affect their own personal and professional transformations. These are powerful methodologies I repeatedly utilize in my own life as well.
If anything you’ve read has resonated with you, I encourage you to give yourself the gift of registering in the program right now.
I’ll be personally guiding an intimate group of eight executives through this process over the next twelve weeks utilizing a powerful blend of online training (that you’ll have lifetime access to), small group mastermind meetings and one-on-one coaching support.
This is the final notice, and registration for the program closes on Friday so that we can begin our work together next week.
Sure, you could probably do this on your own – through trial and error… in stops and starts battling frustration and confusion each step of the way…
You can make this transformation so much more easily and quickly by joining me in this program – to get the support, guidance and coaching that helps you build momentum and sustain your progress.
There are five essential phases in this process of transformation that we’ll move through together.
- VISION: The first phase involves having a vision of what is possible and what your work and your life will be like when you achieve it. The Personal Power Grid™ and associated exercises we’ll cover in the beginning of the program will help you gain clarity and see new possibilities.
- AWARENESS: The second phase entails becoming aware of your current state and the impact it is having in your life. You’ll also begin to recognize what is and isn’t working – which thoughts and behaviors are aligned with your vision and which are not. This is a tricky step because much of it occurs at an unconscious level.
- INSIGHT: As your awareness grows, you’ll gain vital insight that will help you strengthen your vision and inform your actions. This program is designed to help you cultivate your OWN insight in ways you were not able to do before, so that you can find answers that are truly fitting in your own life.
- ACTION: Once you have insight about what you need to do more and less of, you can begin to experiment with action, utilizing tools and methodologies shared in the program. The activities and reflective exercises provided will help you turn information into transformation. The process is iterative, as every action you take allows you to gain additional insight and awareness.
- ANCHORING: To ensure you don’t get sucked back into old habits and patterns, we’ll review the five pitfalls you’ll be most likely to fall into as well as strategies for prevention and recovery. We’ll also discuss regular practices you can institute to leverage your progress and keep you on your path to freedom and flow.
What differentiates this program from all the others out there is that it isn’t about blindly following some recipe for success that attempts to make you someone you are not.
The program is designed to help you move more deeply into who you truly are, so that you can connect with your own wisdom and allow it to guide you in ways that are authentic and natural to you, and lead you to your own personal uniqueness and strengths.
You’ll learn to leverage your experiences in ways that bring clarity and focus into your life, and experience lightness as you begin to let go of things you’ve been making yourself do all these years that have weighed you down and created unnecessary pressure and anxiety. All this while enjoying unprecedented levels of performance and energy that is sustainable – because it comes from the inside out.
I hope you’ll take me up on my invitation to join me now and answer your own personal and professional call to greatness. Step out of that dimly lit room and into the light of possibility, expansion and growth.
The FINAL SEAT has your name on it, so claim it right now, before someone else does.
If you’ve read this far, you know it’s time to act.
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