How to Change a Habit That is Hurting You, Part 5

 

You’re committed to making a change, focused on what you’re moving toward, aware of the impact of your current behavior, and challenging the assumptions that have been driving you to it.

But there’s one last step that is crucial to your success.

Envision and practice a new way of doing things.

It is essential to substitute a new behavior for the old one so you can focus more on what you are moving toward than away from.

Chances are you already know what you’d like to do as an alternative. If not, you can ask yourself the question, “What would be a better way of handling situations that have been causing me trouble?”

When you ask a question, your subconscious mind gets busy finding the answer for you. 

You may learn by watching or seeking mentoring from people around you who are masterful in the areas you strive to improve in. You may find yourself drawn to articles, books, workshops or other resources that will help you. You might journal about it and find yourself writing about the answer.

Once you have an idea of what you’d like to do differently, it’s important to practice as often as you can, both physically and mentally. 

As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory.”

Action is how you bridge the gap between the future you envision and the state you find yourself in now. But you don’t have to wait until you have all the answers or the confidence of a master to begin. Any action that serves your goal will start building momentum and allow you to learn and make essential adjustments along the way.

Remember to be patient and kind with yourself as you learn a new behavior.

It will probably be somewhat uncomfortable or, at the very least, unnatural at first. You’ll likely not be very good at it right away. And you may find it tempting to simply revert to your old behavior as a result.

But stick with it. Since discomfort accompanies growth, it is an indicator of progress.

With consistent practice, it will get easier and come more naturally, until finally the new behavior is so ingrained that you won’t have to think about it all that much.

If an action doesn’t bring the desired result, you can ask yourself what you could have done differently. Use the experience as data to fine-tune your approach to be more aligned with your desired results.

The steps I’ve been sharing with you over these last few days are a small part of what I teach and coach executives to implement in The Pinocchio Principle Unleashed, a thirteen-week, seven-module virtual leadership development program designed to help business professionals like you maximize your performance, minimize stress and pressure and enjoy a more fulfilling life both on and off the job (and lead others to do the same). Message me for more information if you are interested.