The Surprising Secret to Overcoming Inertia (It Has Nothing to Do with Willpower)

 

I want to tell you about something I discovered one morning while doing yoga in my cold house.

I’d been putting off my practice for days — weeks, if I’m honest. Every morning I’d wake up with good intentions, feel the temperature in the room, and decide that I’d start tomorrow. The conditions weren’t right. I needed to feel ready.

One morning I forced myself to get on the mat anyway.

I did a few slow, stiff movements. Everything felt hard. My body was resistant. My mind was making a compelling case that this was pointless. But I kept going. And somewhere in the middle of it, something shifted. My muscles warmed up. My breath deepened. The things that had felt impossible five minutes earlier started happening on their own.

The room hadn’t changed. The temperature was the same. The conditions were exactly as uninviting as they’d been when I’d been talking myself out of it for weeks.

I had changed.

And I thought: isn’t this always how it goes?

The physics of getting unstuck

There’s a principle in physics that states an object at rest tends to stay at rest — and an object in motion tends to stay in motion. We usually think of inertia as the problem (the thing keeping us stuck on the couch), but the same principle that keeps us still is the one that keeps us moving once we start.

The mistake most people make when they’re trying to overcome inertia is waiting for the right conditions before they begin. They’re waiting for clarity, or motivation, or the perfect moment, or enough time, or the right mood. They think that feeling ready is the prerequisite for starting.

It isn’t.

Readiness is a result of beginning. Not a condition for it.

What this looks like in real leadership

I work with executives who have important projects sitting in a drawer — things they know matter, things they genuinely want to do — that have been waiting for the right moment for months. Sometimes years.

The reason is rarely laziness. It’s usually that the project feels big, and starting feels risky, and not starting feels safer than starting badly.

But here’s what I’ve observed: the leaders who make the most meaningful progress are rarely the ones who waited until everything was perfectly aligned. They’re the ones who took a small, imperfect action and let that action create the momentum for the next one.

They got warm.

The question worth asking

When I’m stuck on something — a conversation I’ve been avoiding, a piece of work I keep circling around, a decision I can’t seem to make — I’ve learned to ask myself a different question than “What should I do?”

Instead, I ask: What’s the smallest action I could take right now that would get me into motion?

Not the perfect action. Not the complete action. Just the one that would move the needle from “still” to “in motion.”

Sometimes it’s writing one paragraph. Sometimes it’s making one phone call. Sometimes it’s simply opening the document and reading what’s there.

The moment you take that action, the game changes. Because now you’re in motion. And motion has its own momentum.

One small thing

Think about something you’ve been wanting to move forward on — a project, a conversation, a change you’ve been contemplating. You know the one.

Now ask yourself: what’s the smallest action I could take on it today? Not to finish it. Not to get it right. Just to get warm.

Then take that action. Before you read another article or have another meeting or check your phone again.

The environment won’t change. But you will.

 

I explore this idea, and the deeper patterns that keep high-achieving leaders stuck, in my book: The Pinocchio Principle: Becoming a Real Leader.

 

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Why Strategic Thinking Isn’t Enough (and What to Do Instead)

 

Many executives understand the importance of being more strategic. Far fewer know how to actually practice it in the middle of real work.

Because strategy isn’t just a way of thinking. It’s a way of operating.

And if you don’t intentionally change how you operate, you’ll default right back into the pull of the urgent, the familiar, and the predefined.

Here’s what I see consistently in organizations:

Plans are created.
Best practices are adopted.
Processes are followed.

And then execution becomes the priority – often at the expense of questioning whether the plan still makes sense.

But in a shifting environment, a plan is only as good as your willingness to reevaluate it.

If the route you’re taking isn’t aligned with your desired destination, moving faster won’t help.

And relying on your plan to tell you where to go next won’t either.

Strategic leadership requires something different – something more intentional.

Here are five ways to start putting it into practice:

1. Make space to think (and protect it).

If you don’t create time to reflect, integrate, and assess, it simply won’t happen. Even a small, consistent block of time can help you recalibrate and ensure your actions align with your priorities.

2. Focus as much on the questions as the answers.

Instead of jumping to solutions, ask

• • • “Are we solving the right problem?”
    • “What might we be missing?”
    • “Is this a symptom of something deeper?”Better questions lead to better strategy

3. Connect the top and the front line.

Insight doesn’t live at the top or the bottom. It emerges when both perspectives come together. Create space for real dialogue around what’s actually happening on the ground.

4. Invite (and use) dissent.

When people feel safe challenging the current direction, blind spots shrink. When they don’t, risk multiplies – quietly.

5. Use discernment, not just information.

Not every best practice is best for you. Before implementing ideas, ask “Does this actually fit our context, or are we borrowing  someone else’s solution?”

At the end of the day, strategy isn’t about having the right answers.

It’s about staying connected to what’s actually happening, being willing to adjust course,
and creating the conditions for better thinking to emerge.

That’s what allows leaders to move from executing plans… to shaping the future.

 

How To Become a More Strategic Leader

 

 

One of the major challenges executives struggle to overcome is sacrificing the strategic for the operational. If you are falling into this trap, understanding and working through your resistance is the first step to freedom.

Operational is clean. It has defined edges and finite solutions. You can check the boxes and feel a sense of closure and control with an operational approach.

Strategic on the other hand is often messy. It involves stepping into uncertainty. There is usually no one right answer. It pushes you out of your comfort zone. And it requires that you slow down instead of speeding up, something that flies in the face of what we’ve been conditioned to do.

To avoid this discomfort, many executives prefer being busy to being strategic. It provides the illusion of being productive and a burst of adrenaline that is a nice (yet ultimately unsatisfying and addictive) placebo for real progress.

But busyness isn’t going to help you hit the target necessary to advance your business. Because until you slow down long enough to assess your environment and allow your intuitive mind to partner with your rational mind, you may not even realize what your true target is, let alone how to get there.

Malcolm Gladwell echoed the wisdom of Albert Einstein his iconic book Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking. He wrote, “The key to good decision making is not knowledge. It is understanding. We are swimming in the former. We are desperately lacking in the latter.”

Knowledge is the product of absorbing information. Understanding is the product of insight. And insight comes from the integration of information with experience, from slowing down long enough to practice reflection and discernment. That’s an important key to successfully navigating the changing landscape of “business as usual”.

We live in an age of information. You can find an abundance of resources – articles, books, dissertations, webinars, workshops, best practices, etc. on any given topic. This information tends to be descriptive of what worked in the past to address challenges faced by people and organizations whose situations are rarely identical to our emerging challenges and opportunities.

Acting on information without discernment is like taking someone else’s prescription given for a diagnosis that you aren’t entirely certain matches your own.

Yet all too often we move full speed ahead with seeming solutions that don’t really address the underlying problems (and could make the problem worse). Ask yourself how many times you’ve overlooked or disregarded inklings that told you something is just not right.

To keep this pattern from hijacking your effectiveness, recognize and honor the importance of slowing down when you feel compelled to speed up. Take some time to check in with yourself and reflect on the changing nature of your environment. When you zoom out to see more of the big picture with an inquiry into what’s most important, you will likely recognize things you would have otherwise missed – and receive the insight necessary to know what needs to happen next.

To strategically blaze a trail into the future you must be willing to break away from the constraints of your past (including those you have unwittingly placed on yourself).

Do You Dare to Dream?

 

As children, most of us received mixed messages. You may have been encouraged to follow your heart and give life to your dreams in addition to being conditioned to be practical, hedge your bets, and take the safest route. Over time, many of us have allowed the roar of public opinion – that often tells us our dreams are frivolous, selfish, and unlikely to come to fruition – to silence that small still voice within.

But those among us who have risen against their odds have learned to reverse that process and believe in themselves and their dreams despite the overwhelming evidence around them that would suggest that success is improbable.

Listen closely to the silent whispers of your heart that beckon you to think bigger and act bolder – and to bust out of old paradigms that feel stale or stagnant.

Do what you can to gain clarity on what they are telling you.

And then take action.

For more on taking steps to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be – and to receive updates on an upcoming webinar that’ll help you make the most of 2026, download my special report, “Why Real Leaders Don’t Set Goals (and what they do instead)”.

Why overwhelm can become a self-fulfilling prophecy – and how to break the vicious cycle

 

When you feel heavy and bogged down, everything you do becomes harder and more cumbersome.

You may think the way you feel is a result of your experiences, and that’s true — the more you have to do, the more overwhelmed you’ll feel. But the reverse also applies — the more overwhelmed you feel, the more you are likely to act in ways that exacerbate it. You might procrastinate, overcomplicate things, or waste energy resisting and worrying.

If you focus on evidence suggesting you’ll never rise above the way you are feeling, you’ll trap yourself in vicious circles where you’ll continue to see what you want to rise above and feel the frustration of being unable to break free.

In fact, your frame of mind with everything you do has a direct effect on whether the experience of doing it will be exhilarating and satisfying or frustrating and heavy. 

The stories we tell ourselves have a way of coming true. The way out of self-imposed traps is to start not with our experiences, but our thoughts.

The fundamental shift must come not in what you do, or even how you do it, but what you are thinking, believing and allowing yourself to feel about what you are doing. 

To that end, setting an intention or statement of your desired experience can be very powerful. If you want greater freedom and joy, more meaning and satisfaction, and heightened effectiveness, you must align your thoughts around enjoying those experiences before you even start.

And you need to become diligently aware of the degree to which your thoughts stay aligned with your overarching intention. When they drift, you can return to them, remember what you really want, and align yourself with the state you wish to be in again.

In this way, you can break the vicious cycle of allowing your experiences to bring you down in ways that result in more lousy experiences — and begin anew. Your actions align with your thoughts, and you’ll find yourself coming up with creative ways to simplify, get focused on what is most important, and get it done while enjoying yourself in the process – and sharing your joy with everyone around you.

Looking for a better way to lighten your load? Check out UnleashtheExtraordinary.com.

Here’s to your success!

Diane

 

 

Want to do more? Start by doing less.

 

Want to Do More? Start by Doing Less

We are a goal driven society that is conditioned to seek more.

Our egos desire more money, more fame and prestige, and more stuff. But a deeper part of ourselves longs for more peace, more meaning, and more purpose in our lives. We want to move beyond our previous realizations of what we’ve already accomplished to master newer, better ways of doing things – whether that be what we create in our lives or in our organizations – and as leaders what we can inspire others to do as well.

What if you started with less instead of more?

Just for a moment, consider what you need to let go of to create the space for something new to come in.

You can take your cues from nature. We are officially in the first week of fall – a time of letting go and preparing for regeneration.  Trees shed their leaves, and the energy of plants is directed toward developing a strong root system that’ll help it make it through the winter.

As the days will grow shorter and we spend more time in the dark, it’s fitting to reflect on things you may not be able to see but feel welling up within you.

What are you holding onto that has run its course?

• What are the old, outmoded ways of doing things that no longer bring you energy?
• What things have you acquired that you no longer need?
• What beliefs are you holding onto that are no longer true for you?

In moments that you feel constricted, anxious, or tired ask what you can let go of. Don’t be afraid of the answer. Though it may be uncomfortable because it introduces an element of the unknown, following these insights will always lead to freedom and liberation.

Your computer can only handle so much data, and the same is true of you.

If you don’t delete old emails and files and continue to add new programs without uninstalling old ones, you’ll find that it becomes sluggish and unresponsive. Just as freeing up space allows your computer to process things more quickly, so too will clearing your own personal space (whether of things or thoughts) allow you to access new levels of clarity and creativity.

Space brings freedom.

You’ll breathe easier, be more present in every action and interaction you partake of and bring more of who you really are to what you do. And you’ll open the space of possibility that allows something to come in that may surprise and delight you.

Any work you do on yourself will serve as a form of leadership for others who, like you, seek their own answers and could benefit from your example of unearthing what is possible and allowing it to take form in new and unexpected ways.

Discerning what is and isn’t working and up leveling your game becomes easier and more fun when you have support. When you are ready to go deeper, check out UnleashtheExtraordinary.com.

My Cringe Worthy Epiphany

 

I almost didn’t post this video. It was filmed back in June – and I initially cringed when I reviewed it. But in the spirit of learning and growth, I decided to share it anyway…

I was in the middle of creating my series on learning to break habits that are hurting you.  And I had this experience that made me realize how we get stuck in habits that work against us in the first place.

It’s kind of embarrassing. But you know what? That’s life.

Often, it’s those awkward, even humiliating moments that provide us with insight, wisdom, or at the very least a little levity.

Maybe you will relate…

To your success!

Diane

 

How to Get Those Engines Running Again

 

Over the last several weeks I’ve been posting tips for leaving and returning from vacation. I took my own advice and prepared those articles to go out while I was enjoying some out of office time of my own.

But now I’m back. And I had a few more insights about how to get back in the swing of things as I navigated my own re-entry. This week’s video features four tips that helped me get back into my groove – and I’m confident they will help you too.

While these suggestions are timely after you’ve returned from being away from the office, they are also entirely fitting for anytime you are having trouble getting something done, approaching a project you’ve been putting off, or stuck in the middle of something that has you feeling stalled.

Here’s to coming back better and brighter!

Diane

How to Work Quickly and Effectively Through Post Vacation Piles

 

You’ve returned from a fabulous vacation feeling like everything that happened while you were away has coagulated into an overwhelming pile that seems completely impermeable.

Now what?

In my last post, I discussed the second vital strategy for coming back strong after your vacation: (2) Take advantage of the opportunity to see things from a fresh perspective. A part of that strategy included identifying all the things that are competing for your attention. Not as a “to do” list, but rather an inventory of potential items to be addressed.

Getting things out of your head has a way of freeing up your mind. But that sweet release is quickly replaced with angst and anxiety if you believe you must accomplish all that is written there. That’s when overwhelm sets in and threatens to get in the way of action.

That leads us to the third strategy…

(3) Use discernment to determine your highest priorities.

Take a moment to get clarity on your most important desired outcomes. See if you can go beyond the outcomes themselves to dial in what those accomplishments will give you – forward momentum? closure? pride in your work?

Now, from that mindset, ask yourself the following questions,

• Which of the items listed are truly most important?
• What needs to get done right away, and what can be deferred?
• What MUST I do myself? And what could I delegate to others?
• What, if anything on this list, really doesn’t need to get done at all (or could be minimized in some way?)

Once you’ve identified your priorities, start with the most important. If you can focus on one thing at a time and bring all your presence to getting that thing done, you’ll do it more quickly and effectively. And then you can move onto the next thing with the same laser focus and intensity.

Remember, one of the important functions of taking a vacation is to allow yourself the rest, relaxation and recharge necessary to come back to your work with new vitality, energy and enthusiasm. It could usher in a whole new way to simplify your life and work and focus on bigger, more important, strategic ventures and initiatives.

Approaching your post vacation re-entry by taking the steps outlined above (and covered in previous posts) will allow you to leverage your time away to unleash new levels of performance in yourself, as well as those you lead.

If you want to learn to infuse your work year-round with the same freshness and inspiration you feel after a good vacation, message me to learn about a new program I’ll soon be making available to a limited number of executives.

 

How to Ease Post Vacation Re-entry

 

No matter how much you love your work, returning from vacation can be difficult.

The barrage of emails, phone messages and projects that often pile up can feel heavy, burdensome and downright overwhelming. You may feel soft and ill equipped to address them. After all, it took a while to settle those engines down. And there is only so much even the boldest of coffee can do for you.

But vacation re-entry doesn’t have to be a stress filled experience. 

In fact, when you approach returning from vacation consciously and intentionally, you can make the most of the relaxation you enjoyed in much the same way that you maximize any investment.   That precious down time you allowed yourself can put you ahead of the curve rather than behind it.

This week and next, I’ll be exploring strategies for doing just that. Let’s start with the first…

(1) Get clear on what you most want.

 The beauty of a vacation is that it allows you to get some distance from the myriad of little things that keep you from seeing the bigger picture in your life. You can reconnect with what’s most important to you ­­– and get clarity on what you want more of and less of.

It often happens on more of a feeling level than a thinking level. You may find yourself buoyed by possibility, even if you aren’t sure exactly what it is.  Time away ushers in new energy that allows us to feel life could be so much simpler, richer, satisfying and fulfilling.

Don’t let that feeling disappear just because your vacation has come to an end. Before you jump back into your work, tune into the bigger picture of what you want to experience and see if you can feel it as though it already exists.

Do you want more simplicity? To cut through complexity with confidence and ease? To infuse your work with more optimism and lightness?

How do you want to feel at the end of the day? See if you can go there and experience it now. Imagine yourself driving home feeling grateful for what you accomplished and enthusiastic about what is on the horizon. Then return to the moment and approach your day from that frame of mind.

Tuning into the mindset that will keep you in sync with your vision will guide your actions in ways that are most likely to bring your desired state to fruition. So, lock it in, and commit to staying aligned and returning to that conscious state of mind if and when something momentarily steals your focus.

If you want to learn to infuse your work year-round with the same freshness and inspiration you feel after a good vacation, message me to learn about a new program I’ll soon be making available to a limited number of executives.

Next week, I’ll post about the second strategy for coming back strong after your vacation: Take advantage of the opportunity to see things with a fresh perspective.