How to Change a Habit That is Hurting You, Part 4

 

Sometimes when you can’t kick a habit that is hurting you, it’s because your behavior is linked to a limiting assumption or belief. It’s like pulling out a weed without removing its root.

Action follows thought and assumptions are thoughts that are like the strings on puppets, controlling their every move. When these assumptions are unexamined, they propel us to engage in actions without thinking.

But when you examine the assumptions linked to a behavior you want to change, you may find that though they are compelling, they are not very logical – and in some cases are downright erroneous.

An assumption that keeps people from taking bold action could be something like “I don’t have what it takes to do what I really want to do,” or “If I try and fail, I’ll be worse off than I am now.”

And an assumption that keeps people from delegating to/empowering others and truly leading might be “If I don’t do this myself, it’s not going to get done right (or at all).”

Assumptions like these get us into more trouble than they prevent and have us acting in ways that reinforce the assumption.

In the first case, if you assume that you can’t do something, you’ll act with hesitation (if at all), and your wavering will keep you from performing or lead you to make things much harder than they need to be. You may look to your lack of results as confirmation that your assumption was correct, but the real problem is the impact the assumption itself had on your ability to act with confidence.

In the second case, if you don’t believe others can handle something (or that you are better off doing it yourself), you’ll likely not properly set them up for success, build their confidence or remove obstacles that could keep them from achieving results. And when they are unable to execute properly, you’ll see their lack of success as data that confirms your initial assumption.

Identifying these assumptions can be tricky because they’re often so engrained we don’t even realize they’re operating.

But if you stop to reflect on what you believe about the situation, yourself, or others you can begin to become aware of them. And then you can change the thinking that perpetuates the habit you’re trying to rise above.

The steps I’ve been sharing with you over these last few days are a small part of what I teach and coach executives to implement in The Pinocchio Principle Unleashed, a thirteen-week, a seven-module virtual leadership development program designed to help business professionals like you maximize your performance, minimize stress and pressure and enjoy a more fulfilling life both on and off the job (and lead others to do the same). Message me if you are interested in learning more.

Next week, I’ll share the fifth and final step of How to Change a Habit That is Hurting You.

Here’s to your success!