Don’t Let a Gut Punch Keep You Down

 

If you’ve ever had a major disappointment, you know it can suck the wind right out of you, just like a gut punch. It can also steal your attention and energy and keep it fixated on something you likely have little or no control over. And that has far worse consequences.

Getting the wind knocked out of you is temporary. Eventually your breathing evens out and your bruises heal. But if you allow your attention and energy to be dominated by something that brings you down, you not only forfeit your ability to savor the positive things in your life – you also give away your power.

Why?

Because our brains are wired to take in information that confirms what we already believe, deem to be important, and/or are currently focused on. And they screen out any information that doesn’t match.

So, when you allow your focus to be consumed by something that’s bringing you down, your reticular activating system acts as a filter that allows more information in to match the dominant thought pattern. It’ll also screen out information that could otherwise pull you out of your funk. And that can keep you trapped in a downward spiral.

It’ll magnify your feelings of disappointment, but that’s not the worst of it. Since action follows thought, it’ll also keep you from recognizing what you could potentially do to rise above it.

But it doesn’t have to…

Here are five tips for turning that dynamic around – so you can bounce back from disappointment more quickly and get yourself back on a positive, productive, and promising trajectory.

1) Notice your state and acknowledge your feeling. Disappointment is real, as are the losses that often accompany them. Often denying those feelings just makes them stronger. Feeling them allows them to move through you more quickly.

2) Identify what you most want now. You can use the disappointment itself as a guiding force. If the thing you most wanted had come to be, what would it have given you? See if you can go deeper by identifying the feeling beneath them that was driving the desire. Perhaps it was a feeling of peace or joy. Maybe it was a sense of accomplishment or progress.

3) Shift your focus to whatever allows you to feel those feelings now. Maybe it’s something you are grateful for in your life. Or the memory of a previous success. The more you can identify with that feeling, the more likely you are to align your thoughts with what you most desire.

4) Shift your attention from what’s out of your control to what’s within your ability to impact. Even asking yourself the question of what you could do to bring your desire to fruition will begin to change your thought pattern and prompt your reticular activating system to search for ideas and solutions.

5) Never underestimate the power your thoughts and actions have on those around you. Use this opportunity to show others the way to rise above their own disappointment and frustration.

No one enjoys a gut punch. It may knock you down, but it doesn’t have to keep you there. With conscious intention, desire, and a willingness to stay in the game you can come back strong – with the mindset and mojo of a winner.