3 Steps for Escaping the Hamster Wheel

Do you find yourself running from one thing to the next with little time to think about what you’re doing and why?

If you said yes, you’re not alone.

Many high achieving professionals feel they have way more to do than time to do it. Their ambition, drive, and passion have served them well, but they know they’re capable of more. More opportunity, more impact, and dare I say – more freedom to enjoy their careers and their lives.

The daily grind keeps us tethered to the ground, thinking our best is just around the corner if only we can get through what’s in front of us – often an accumulation of projects and commitments that grows far faster than it shrinks. Occasionally, it becomes apparent that something’s got to give.

But who has time to slow down when there’s so much more to get done?

The fantasy many of us have bought into is that if we just work longer and harder, we will get there. And despite our longing to find balance and the sweet spot that will finally allow us to relax and be more effective, we often act in ways that bring greater levels of anxiety and toil.

As leaders, we also unwittingly create entire cultures of people who emulate our frenetic behavior in the name of getting ahead.

The hamster in the wheel doesn’t know he isn’t getting anywhere.

And before he can, he must realize that he is, in fact, in a wheel. Our wheels are much more sophisticated and deceiving than those of the hamster. Because initially, our wheels do get us somewhere. It’s just that over time, they lose traction and become stuck in comfortable ruts.

And we don’t realize when we’re stuck, because it doesn’t seem possible to be standing still when you’re running like hell.

How willing are you to recognize that perhaps there is a better way?

All change begins with awareness coupled with desire. To move beyond your madness, try the following:

• Pay attention when you’re feeling anxious, stressed, or tense. Recognize the thought or behavior pattern that may be causing this discomfort. This may be a prime area for a shift.
• Ask yourself some discerning questions such as, “What small, but powerful change could I make today that would allow me to be more effective?” Open your mind to different approaches, processes and greater discernment about what really must be done, when, and by whom.
• Notice what catches your attention in the coming days. The answers to your questions will reveal themselves to you, but you must hold the intention to receive them and be willing to listen.

Once you recognize the patterns and triggers that perpetuate your anxiety, stress, and pressure – and the impact they’re having in your life, they begin to lose their hold on you. As they fall away, you can escape the hamster wheel and take the kind of inspired action that’ll get you where you REALLY want to go.

Here’s to your success!

How to Get What You Really Want

“What do you really want?”

I ask my clients and myself this question. We answer:

• I want things to go my way.
• I want to come out on top.
• I more wins and fewer losses.
• I want my problems to disappear.
• I want to be profitable.
• I want to be successful.
• I want to be respected.

All understandable, relatable.

But the follow-up question is just as important.

“What would that give you?”

This one stumps people. But the answer is usually something about getting peace of mind, satisfaction, happiness and a feeling that all is as it should be in the world.

What if you could have that now?

Sign you up, right?

It starts by recognizing that that the quality of your day – the feeling of getting what you want – is a direct reflection of your thoughts.

Here’s an example of what I mean.

You are about to go into a high-pressure meeting.

You know what you need to do to come out on top. Of course, you want to win, you want to be respected and your agenda dictates that the meeting must unfold in a certain way. Already your mind has created a definition of winning, of GETTING WHAT YOU WANT, that involves you playing your part and others in the meeting playing the part you have imagined for them.

If things don’t go exactly the way you envision, you are disappointed.

You may feel disrespected. If they do go your way, and someone else loses in the process because they must bow to your agenda, then the victory of that win is likely to fade quickly, leading you to seek another win.

What if you go into that same high-pressure meeting with a different mindset?

A mindset that views the meeting through the lens of all parties winning – even if the way to do that was not part of your original agenda? Go into the meeting seeking the best solution for everyone and watch what happens.

Up leveling your mindset allows you to see new possibilities and get better results.

Your mind will begin to entertain the thought that there could actually be a solution in which everyone wins. As a result, you will listen more intently. You will ask different questions. You will be more genuinely interested in what others have to say, because they are an important part of your solution. You will show respect others, and in so doing receive respect.

If you hold the intention of a meeting that everyone walks away from feeling better than when it started, you’ll go into that meeting with a quiet confidence, faith, trust and patience. You’ll take comfort in the wisdom of the group. You’ll start to find you are NOW getting what you want.

It sounds too easy.

Magical even. It’s no wonder since we’re conditioned to believe that we have to do something to get what we want, whether that’s money, respect or peace.

Let’s start again.

Think about whatever your mind if most occupied with and ask the question, What do I really want?

And then, what would that give me?

Take those questions to a higher level, one in which everyone involved benefits in some way.

Feel the ultimate end state as though it has already happened, even though you have no idea how it will happen. Can you rest in the certainty that things will happen in everyone’s best interest?

Let it flow.

Then as you go about your day or face this situation, let your actions flow from the state of mind you wish to achieve. Over time, you’ll realize that instead of having to see it to believe it, what you see will be a direct reflection of what you believe. Allow yourself to believe in the highest possible good for everyone, let go of how it will happen and watch miracles unfold in your life and those of everyone around you.

You won’t have to do anything to achieve that peace of mind, satisfaction and a feeling that all is as it should be because you already possess it.

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