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A Simple Little Secret for Overcoming Inertia
Is there something you’ve been wanting to do that you just can’t get yourself to take action on? You may dream and scheme and even have a plan for moving forward. But for whatever reason you just haven’t been able to execute it. Overcoming inertia is a common challenge, and it can keep you from living your dreams. But it doesn’t have to.
You’re probably familiar with the law of inertia. According to Merriam Webster, inertia is “…the inherent property of a body that makes it oppose a force that would cause a change in its motion. A body at rest and a body in motion both oppose forces that might cause acceleration.”
So, anytime you aspire to do something different, whether changing a habit or behavior, beginning a new endeavor, or creating anything – overcoming inertia is going to be a necessary and unavoidable part of the process.
It’s a powerful force. Because it’ll lead you to believe that whatever you are about to do is going to be hard. And you may end up telling yourself stories that’ll keep you stuck. You might convince yourself that whatever you are about to do is too complicated. Or that it’ll require too much work. Or that you don’t have the talent, energy, or wherewithal to endure it.
But what if the secret to overcoming inertia is to actually use the principle of inertia itself?
What if all you had to do to launch your new endeavor, habit, behavior, creation – or whatever you aspire to do – is just take some small action?
What if you don’t need to have it all figured out? …all your ducks in a row? …a multi-phase plan that maps every requirement, every step, and every contingency?
What if all you need to do is just START something?
Open a word doc and start writing. Pick up the phone and make a call. Go for a walk. Just get into action – and create new momentum – that is in alignment with whatever you ultimately want to accomplish.
If inertia is a force that leads us to continue doing what we’ve done before, by definition even the tiniest change in trajectory will begin to create a new force in a different direction.
Perhaps in this way, the smallest of actions can ultimately lead to the biggest of changes.
I experienced the power of this myself a few weeks ago, on a cold February day. And on a whim, I filmed a little video to capture my epiphany…
Hi, Diane Bolden, executive coach and author of “The Pinocchio Principle: Becoming a Real Leader.” And I just finished my morning ride. The thought hit me to shoot a video.
It’s cold here in Phoenix, which is crazy. I know. Wa, wa. But it was 35 degrees this morning, which is cold in Phoenix in February. And I did not want to get out of bed. And I did not want to ride the exercise bike. But I did it.
And I had an insight while I was riding that I wanted to share with you. What I realized is that it was hard to get on the bike because I was cold and I had to push through that resistance.
But now I’m warm. I’m actually kind of hot.
And I was thinking about how this is kind of like a metaphor for life… because whenever you start something new, you feel kind of cold. And you don’t want to. And there’s a lot of resistance.
[NOTE: Starting something new requires overcoming inertia – the momentum of whatever you were doing before that may be keeping you from doing what you’d like to do next. But… you can use the force of inertial to overcome inertia.]
And the more you give yourself to it – the more you allow yourself to kind of be in the game and push, (and I don’t mean push in a negative way, I just mean to get warm, to get your feet wet, to start something somewhere), what’s interesting is the environment doesn’t change…
It’s still very cold outside, and in here, but my body’s warmer and I have the ability to do things that I couldn’t do when I first woke up. And isn’t that just the same thing with life?
We start off and we’re cold. The environment doesn’t change, the circumstances don’t change. But if you allow yourself to get in the game and to get a little warm, and to move a little bit, you might find that you change.
And when you do, you’re capable of doing things you maybe didn’t think you could.
There Are No Missed Opportunities
Do you believe in “once in a lifetime opportunities”?
A lot of people will try to convince you to move on something because you’ll never have another chance…
Maybe you’ve even tried to convince yourself of that.
It creates a lot of pressure. And when you decide to pass something up, you may worry or regret what feels like missed opportunities. That can suck up a lot of wasted energy.
This week’s video will give you a different perspective – one that will save you a lot of frustration and help you to recognize that you may know more than you think you do.
Hi. Diane Bolden, Executive Coach and author of The Pinocchio Principle Unleashed – Becoming a Real Leader: How to Unleash Genius in Yourself and Those You Lead.
Have you ever regretted not taking action on something? Maybe it was something you’ve been wanting to do, but you just didn’t feel ready. Maybe the timing just wasn’t right. Maybe you just couldn’t get yourself to do it.
And then you might have beat yourself up or wondered, “Did I make the right decision?” Because there’s so much pressure put on us for not passing up that “once in a lifetime opportunity”.
But I don’t buy that. I don’t see life that way. Experiences in my own life, as well as that of many clients I’ve worked with bear a different truth – life doesn’t give up on us. And there are no missed opportunities.
Ancient philosopher/poet Rumi – “What you seek is seeking you.” So, if you’re meant to do something, you’ll have numerous opportunities to say yes. Like the waves in an ocean, one right behind the other.
Life prepares us for the grand things we do by giving us the not so grand little opportunities for growth. And when you’re not ready for something, you’ll have chances to prepare yourself.
And ultimately, many grand opportunities.
So, if something you really want hasn’t happened, or if you’ve passed up an opportunity to engage with it, don’t despair. You’re that much closer to the next one…
And it WILL come.
In the spirit of there being no missed opportunities… though the spring session of The Pinocchio Principle Unleashed is now full, you can get on the waiting list for fall. And if you’re interested in bringing the program in house, inquire at Support@DianeBolden.com.
Ever Feel Like Work is a Chore?
A third of your time on the planet is spent at work. Why would you do something that makes you feel… dead before your time?
So many of us feel like work is a chore, which Merriam Webster defines as “an unpleasant but necessary task”. It gets lumped in there with all the other things we dread but make ourselves do anyway – washing dishes, picking up the dog (or cat) poop, taking out the trash.
It’s interesting that Webster’s definition of the word “work’ has a similar connotation: “a task or tasks to be undertaken; something a person has to do”.
So, you could argue that the words “work” and “chore” go hand in hand. And if your previous experiences validate a belief that work is a chore the association will be even stronger. So strong that it leads to a common expectation that work is a necessary evil, a thing to be endured, something laborious and heavy.
Neuroscientific research has shown us that it is often our expectations themselves that shape our experience of reality. And that can keep you stuck in a perpetual loop of believing that work is a chore and a resulting experience that proves it to be true.
Over time, perpetual loops feel a lot like hamster wheels – you’ll expend a ton of energy, feel a lot of frustration, and not really get anywhere.
(And if you are a leader, you may be unintentionally setting that tone for your whole organization.)
But you can turn that all around and change your world for the better. It doesn’t require a lobotomy. And it doesn’t necessarily mean you need to quit your job. This video will give you a glimpse of just how easy that simple shift could be.
If you want more on revitalizing your work from the inside out, consider enrolling in the spring session of The Pinocchio Principle Unleashed: The Real Leader’s Guide to Accessing the Freedom & Flow of Your Authentic Genius. This exclusive 12-week leadership development program is now in its 7th year, with over a hundred happy alumni.
Participants for this video-based, small group coaching program are carefully selected and capped at no more than ten. Registration will open on February 15th, and priority will be given to those on the waiting list. For more information or to be considered for enrollment, go to www.UnleashtheExtraordinary.com.
Feeling stuck? Refocus on your GOAL…
Research indicates that 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by the beginning of February. And if you’re thinking to yourself, “That’s why I don’t ever SET them,” you are not alone.
BUT… we all have goals and dreams and visions that are important to us. And achieving them isn’t always easy. If you’re feeling stuck or stymied, you may begin to get discouraged. You might judge yourself or beat yourself up – which certainly doesn’t help the situation.
But the solution for getting back in the game and on the path to achievement may not be as difficult as you think. Perhaps all you need do is refocus on your goal, or better yet shift your focus to something even more compelling…
This video is about getting back in the game after you’ve lost some of your steam – or when your best laid plans have gone awry. I’ve shared from my own personal experience (one that seems quite common) what I’ve found to be the biggest derailer – and how to avoid and/or overcome it.
Why refocus on your goal? Because your dreams, visions, and heartfelt intentions are too important to let feeling stuck get in the way. Watch the video to learn a powerful approach for getting out of the mire and back on the road to success.
And if you’d like more guidance on how to follow through on your most important intentions, visions and dreams – download my special report: Why Real Leaders Don’t Set Goals… (and what they do instead).
1.) why goals in and of themselves are insufficient
2.) a simple, compelling, and far more effective approach to achievement
3.) how to minimize the chance that your plans will be derailed
4.) how to master your mindset to achieve your dreams.
Here’s to your success!
This caught me off guard…
Quite ironically, right after I launched my newest on demand course on navigating change, challenge and uncertainty, I was hit by a sudden (and quite undesired) curve ball.
I filmed a little video before the holidays to capture some insights that came to me through the experience.
No matter how aspirational and planful you are as you usher in the new Year, life will inevitably bring unexpected twists and turns. My hope is that this video can help you bounce back from the kind of change you would never actually wish for yourself.
Eckharte Tolle once said, “Some changes look negative on the surface, but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.”
Here’s to EMERGING in 2023!
P.S. You can find my latest on-demand course here: Navigating Change, Challenge & Uncertainty: How to Unleash Unprecedented Performance in Unchartered Territory
3 Things I Learned in My Garage About Navigating Change
Sometimes the greatest insights come to you in the strangest places.
In the midst of inevitable twists and turns, I found myself in my garage…
…surrounded by relics of the past and inklings about the future.
And I realized a few things about the nature of change – and how best to endure it.
So I filmed a little video to capture these thoughts for you…
The Way We’ve Been Working Isn’t Working Any More
Are you familiar with what’s being called The Great Resignation? With resignations and job openings at an all time high, companies are competing to hire and retain top talent. But much of that talent is feeling overwhelmed, overextended and burned out.
Because THE WAY WE’VE BEEN WORKING ISN’T WORKING ANY MORE.
We are at an unprecedented time with regard to work/life integration challenges. Telecommuting allowed us more time at home, but for many it blurred the lines between our work and personal lives, skewing it toward work and leaving many feeling chewed up and spit out.
While it’s becoming clear we cannot go back to the way things were, we must find a way to chart a path that’ll get us where we really want to go – and redesign the way we work from the inside out.
There has never been a better opportunity for leaders to rise up and blaze a new trail. But before they can lead others, they must first do it for themselves. This video was created for those who feel compelled to answer that call.
Are you one of them?
Watch the video to find out, then visit www.UnleashtheExtraordinary.com for more details.
Could there be order in your chaos?
Rainer Maria Wilke once said, “The future enters into us, long before it happens, in order to transform itself in us.”
I believe that quote speaks to some of those random experiences that on the face of things don’t make a lot of sense – but in retrospect seem to provide a sense of order to the seemingly chaotic (and often undesirable) events that take place in our lives.
This week’s video, “Life’s Perfect Classroom” is an example of how that played out in my life. I offer it in the hope that my story will help you recognize events in your own life that have allowed you to get where you are today – and perhaps even more importantly, those now unfolding that will play a pivotal role in what you will ultimately do next.
Here’s to your growth and inevitable success!
A Visionary Approach for Getting More Done with Less Effort
It’s been said that how you do anything is how you do everything. If that’s true, then the improvements you make in the way you do things anywhere will spill over into what you do EVERYWHERE.
I decided to play with that logic one weekend when attempting to find an easier, less grueling way to get through all the things I wanted to accomplish. And I discovered a tiny little tweak that ended up making a big difference not only in my productivity at home, but also at work.
In less than five minutes, this week’s video, A Visionary Approach for Getting More Done with Less Effort will tell you all about it – so you can try it for yourself.
Here’s to your success!
What Can Pinocchio Teach You About Navigating Change and Unleashing Your Genius?
As I’ve written in recent posts, change is coming at us right now both from the outside in and the inside out.
And change is naturally somewhat disconcerting.
But it can also be liberating and empowering – if you use it as a doorway to rediscover you who really are at your core – to unleash your GENIUS.
When you access your Genius, you’ll not only unlock your highest levels of performance and advance your career, you’ll also enjoy more freedom and fulfillment both on and off the job.
The Pinocchio Principle: The Real Leader’s Guide to Accessing the Freedom & Flow of Your Authentic Genius, my 13 week signature program, is designed to help high achieving executives do just that. The fall session is kicking off on Wednesday, September 30.
I believe it’s more timely now than ever. I filmed a short (5 min) video to tell you why…
You can find all the details about the program here: The Pinocchio Principle: The Real Leader’s Guide to Accessing the Freedom & Flow of Your Authentic Genius. If you have questions or just want to chat about it, you can also schedule a call with me.
But don’t wait long! The fall session will start on Wednesday, September 30 and I intentionally limit enrollment to a small, intimate size so that each person can have the highest level of support and personalized attention.
Here’s to your Genius!
“I shared before that your program was life changing, but I wanted you to know that is even more true now. I was going through some of my session notes and I had written down some of the characteristics when you are operating in your genius, which I wrote down – trust, faith and curiosity. In a time when it would be so easy to be in fear, judgement and anxiety, I have operated in my genius during this time more than ever before at any point in my life. I have you to thank for that and I am truly grateful. Thank you!”
Porsha M. Caddell, Sr. Manager, Customer Service Business Planning, Southern California Edison